Life Can be a B***h!!

At times, life can be a b***h, wouldn’t you agree?  I have been missing in action, and I want to let all of you know I have not abandoned my blog or my readers.  I’ve just had a lot going on in real life.

My Father

Last February, my dad was admitted to the hospital.  He had a heart attack and a UTI.  Thank God, they found no damage to his heart.  The whole incident left him very weak, and he wound up having to get around in a wheelchair.  He never really was quite the same after that hospital stay.

His oncologist told me then that his cancer had become very aggressive and has not only spread to his bones, (he was initially diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer)  but also spread to his bladder.  He was in so much pain.

Since February, he wound up in the hospital two more times.  The last time, back in July, after a few days, he became unresponsive.  It was like he went to sleep.  He struggled to breathe, and once I got to Florida, from Indiana, they had put him on a C-pack.

After a couple of days, with dad still being unresponsive, we decided to move him to hospice.  There they kept him comfortable and made sure he was no longer in pain.  On July 28th, he passed away.  We moved him into hospice about three that afternoon, and he passed away at 11:44 that night.  I got the call shortly after midnight.

Life can be a bitch, Enjoying the second half of life

I have a beautiful mahogany urn, with his ashes, for a military funeral — which he truly deserves.  Thirty-one years of service, wouldn’t you?  There is the USCG emblem on the box. I think he would’ve really liked that.  As well as a tiny urn, with the USA flag on it, where I can spread his ashes at the foot of his mother’s grave, which he wanted.  But all of this came to a screeching halt five days before his funeral.

Wound Up in the Hospital

On Sunday, August 11th, I went to the ER in pain.  I was told I had a kidney stone, MRSA (in my nose), and a UTI, so I was admitted into the hospital.  After two days of IV antibiotics, and the urologist trying to get me to have a procedure, I opted for going home to pass my kidney stone.  They sent me home with Oxycodone and an antibiotic.

UTI, shingles, kidney stone

I might as well have been given smarties for my pain, cause the Oxycodone did absolutely nothing for my pain!  My pain was unreal.

And, you know what else?  They never gave me any of the medicine I was taking at home.  My everyday medicine.  Thank God Tommy went ahead and brought it from home.  They didn’t even ask about it.  I found that to be extremely odd.

So Back We Went

After one day of being at home and being in a lot of pain, we went back to the hospital to have that procedure my urologist talked about.

Oh, and on top of everything I was already dealing with, I am told I have shingles.  I can’t help but wonder if I got from my first stay in the hospital.  I was told no, but I just have this feeling, yanno?    Oh, and get this, my second stay in the hospital, which was only two days after my release from my first stay, I was not treated for my MRSA.  I’m like, WTH??  How’s that for competent health care.

Anyway, I went for the procedure and had the stone pulverized and had a stent put in.  All of this was supposed to help me pass the kidney stone with less discomfort for me.  I was sent home the next day, and my nightmare began.  The pain was unrelenting.

They sent me home with Percocet, which did nothing for my pain.  Even my Vicodin that I take for arthritis flares did absolutely nothing.  It was one of the two worse days in my 58 years.  Most of my pain was from my UTI and shingles.  Opioids do nothing for shingles, for that affects the nerves.  I needed nerve pills for that pain.

On Monday, my husband called the urologist office.  The receptionist told him the stone was no longer there.  Now, no ct had been performed since the procedure, so how did they know whether the stone was still there or not?

My husband, Tommy, went berserk.  He contacted a lawyer.  But I’ve already decided we’re not going to go that route.  We were told unless I lost a limb, it wasn’t worth it.  Probably not worth it for the lawyers.  That’s fine with me; I don’t want to bother with it.

The urologist office called back and said we were absolutely right, the stone was still there, and they wanted to schedule a day, where I could come into their office, and get the stent removed.  I was like, you’re kidding me, right?  I then informed the receptionist I was heading north, back home to Indiana to see my doctors.  She still tried getting me to come to their office, to get my stent removed, I wound up having to hang up on her.

MRSA, UTI, shingles, kidney stone


Once we were back home, I went to the ER.  Thank goodness for Tommy, he had my records from Florida.  Anyway, I had vowed to never go to a doctor or hospital down in Florida again.  We had a previous nightmare in Florida, back in 2015.  But I won’t go into that one.

MRSA, UTI, shingles, kidney stone
credit photo by Eric Crossan

The ER, here in Indiana, did a CT and found a tiny piece of my stone was there.  Imagine that!  They changed my meds around, mainly my anti-biotics.  Then gave me Gabapentin,  a nerve pill for my shingles pain.  Thank God. That made such a difference in helping with the pain caused by the shingles.   Tommy also bought Verasil and CBD lotion to apply topically.  The CBD lotion worked better and wasn’t all greasy.

Fast Forward

My UTI is finally gone.  The kidney stone and stent is not.  Which has made me so miserable that I don’t want to wait till October 8th to see my urologist?  I am going to call today and see if I can get that appointment moved forward.

I still have the shingles, but blisters are gone.  Just when I think they’re going away, they come back with the same intense pain.  My primary doctor informed me that some people never get rid of the shingles.  You know I was excited to hear that.

I want to go back to Florida before the cold weather hits here in Indiana.  But I refuse to go back down there until I am 100% healthy.  We have plans to spend Thanksgiving with our two older girls down in Fort Myers, Florida, so I am so hoping to be well by then, the latest.

Oh, I almost forgot, we had planned to have a military funeral for my father on August 16th, but since I was in the hospital, we had to postpone his funeral.  The plan is to have his funeral on December 2nd.  Then on the 3rd, he wanted his ashes spread at the foot of his mom’s grave.  So we will do that as well.  He deserves a military funeral.  And we’ll also be spreading some his ashes, at his mom’s grave, which has me keeping my word that I made to him  RIP dad, and I love you.  Say hi to mom, papa, and nana for me!  <3

I had a mammogram done this week, Sept. 23rd,  and finally some good news–it came back normal.  I needed a little bit of good news.  I know in time I will be back to normal, but not soon enough.

I’m sorry if I went into such detail.  But I just wanted my readers to know that I did not abandon my site.  And that I have some great ideas for articles coming soon.  So stay tuned, lol.

Also, if there is an article idea you may have, please leave them in the comment section below.  I’ll check them out and possibly write about it, giving you credit, of course.


I have an appointment for this Friday to get this damn stent removed!!!

And thanks for listening to my woes.  LOL  Who know’s maybe it’ll help me get it off my chest!

Last Update-10/3/19

I went in a got my stent removed.  A big shout out to Dr. Orr for fitting me in and not making me wait till the 8th.  He also informed me that what stone was still there you could barely see, and he wasn’t too worried about it for now.  He said it might grow, but that drinking plenty of water and a low salt diet would help greatly.  And possibly keep it from growing.

I still have the darn shingles, but after everything I’ve already been through, I believe they will be gone soon as well.  Prayers work wonders.

The only reason I would take up jogging is so that I could hear heavy breathing again. Erma Bombeck

20 thoughts on “Life Can be a B***h!!”

  1. wow, Laura, you are a very strong lady I must say and thanks to Tommy for always standing by you. I always like it to see when a lady can show braveness. Even after your father’s death and you had some complications with your kidney you still stood strong. I can’t imagine how hard it was for you with the pain. I like that you’re not taking your changes to go back to Florida yet. I wish you get well soon. Take care.

    • Hi John,

      I can’t wait to get back to Florida, it’s been a while since I’ve been able to see our oldest daughter.  I miss her.

      Yes, Tommy has always been my rock.  He reels me in when I get a little crazy.  We all need someone like that.  LOL

      With yours, as well as the other comments, that gives me strength, so please let me thank you for your words of encouragement.

      I hope you come by again,

  2. Hello Laura, you have really been through it all in this past few months and I know definitely you are able to overcome it all. Thanks for being strong and staying above everything else that has happened to you. I’m sorry to hear about your dad’s demise. I know God would really heal you and your soul to see the bliss and goodness of the better days to come. You are truly made for more

    • Hi,

      Yes, God has been with me.  We’ve done a lot of talking these past several months, or on my part, at times, begging.

      Thank you for the condolences.  I know now he is in a better place and no longer in pain.

      It feels good to be back and writing again,

  3. Wow, I am amazed after all that you have been through that you still have a sense of humour. I feel for you, as I feel our health is our most precious gift and without it, we cannot live and function in any sort of quality or normal way.

    Please write some more about your experiences with Shingles. you don’t find too many personal experiences of this on the internet, and my friend now has it and would like to read about it from somebody who has actually had it.

    Keep your spirits up and keep those articles coming.

    • Hi Michel,

      Thank you, as well as thank you for the idea about writing about shingles.  I didn’t even think of that, for an article.  I hope your friend gets rid of them soon.  Their terrible, I wouldn’t wish this on my worse enemy.

      As I mentioned, I didn’t always feel strong.  My husband was my rock, and I thank God for him.  Writing about my experience helps me to feel stronger now.

      Again thank you, and I always try and keep the humor, lol,

  4. Wow, it been quite a rough year for you. I’m so sorry about your dad. I really can’t relate to the feeling since mine left us when I was little so to me, he’s always been gone. Though I have to hand it over to you, you’re so strong. The way you expressed yourself it almost felt like you are talking about somebody else’s life.  I really admired that about you.

    • Hello Hope,

      I didn’t always feel strong, believe me.  I felt I would ever get well again.  Thank you for your kind words.  And I’m sorry to hear about your dad as well.  Death is awful, no matter what age.

      I think it helped me to write this,

  5. I’m sorry to hear about your dad. At least he got the funeral he deserved. Indeed life could be horrible brutal sometimes. You for sure had your part in short amount of time. No doubt about that. Unfortunately it’s not the doctors knows best and they could just as have given you candy for pain management. I  know all about it. You have to be healthy to be sick. So it seems. And you have to fight the system. Just keep moving forward. Things will get better. All the best, Fred.

    • Hi Fred,

      Things are starting to look up.  Thank you for your condolences.  It is trials like this that make us stronger.  Or so I believe.  

      And, yes, I will keep on moving forward.

      Thank you,


  6. Laura, this is really disheartening to hear of and I hope that may God help you to overcome your fears and anything that is disturbing you. You have gone through it all and you are standing tall above everything else. I really fancy this platform a lot and I really got inspired through your story. For you to have faced all of these alone and still standing tall, then God have a lot of purpose for you in this world and I really pray you will fulfill them. Thanks for sharing this and I look forward to reading Kore of your works

    • Hi Shelley,

      Your kind words are truly appreciated.  Thank you.  It’s words like yours that help.  I’m glad you’ll be back.

      Again, thank you , Shelley,

  7. Oh, I thought you had left us all hanging here and I didn’t know that life was happening to you. Truly, life can be a b sometimes but I really like how you are handling things. It’s very nice to see that you can drop a joke on your article. You’re really a jolly fellow. I wish you quick recovery and hope to see you some more. With love from me.

    • Hi Henderson,

      I hope you are doing well on this Fall day.  Your kind words mean a lot to me, thank you.  If I don’t joke, I may cry and I’m done with all that!  I am a firm believer that laughter IS “The Best Medicine.” 

      Its good to be back, and I have dozens of ideas to write about.  So time permitting, I will be doing a lot of that.

      Have a great day/night/morning,

  8. I am very sorry to hear about your father and am sorry for your loss. It’s understandable that you would be away from writing for a while, but I’m glad to see that you are writing again as it can be helpful not only to the readers but for you to channel some emotions. The state of the healthcare industry is not so good. Someone I am close to had surgery recently and they prescribed them Oxycodone, which was not enough for the pain. I understand that there is an opioid epidemic, but that doesn’t mean we should take away proper pain medication for those who actually need it. You are battling some adversity for sure. Just hang in there and hopefully the stone will be gone in no time. I hope you feel better and good luck!

    • Hello,

      I agree with you on the opioid epidemic.  Those who really need pain meds are usually the ones that suffer.  I had to come back home to Indiana to get my Vicodin filled.  They won’t fill it in Florida, and I was made to feel like a criminal.  Thanks, but no thanks, right?  And I hope your friend is doing better now.

      Thank you for your kind words.  I’m beginning to see and end..which for the longest time I didn’t.  You take care as well, and please stop by again.

  9. Nice website, great collection of recipes!! love that resource you have provided for your readers.

    I would say that your paragraphs are too long, need to break them up into smaller bites, so the reader doesn’t get overwhelmed.

    Thanks for sharing your story. It’s always hard to deal with the loss of a loved one. Writing it out can be a therapeutic process that helps with the coping.


  10. Hello Laura- I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. May Lord give your family peace and comfort to bear all these pain.Please accept my deepest condolence on your father’s loss.My prayers are with you

    Glad to see that you backed and updated us;By the time I am writing this text I hope your shingles and kidney stone are completely gone.You did great whatever needed to be done so far.Purchasing the Verasil and CBD lotion to use is right decision that you have made. I am sure that you are strong enough to tackle these hurdles and get rid over these difficulties soon.

    Keep writing-Best wishes

    • Hi,

      And thank kindly for your kind words regarding my father.  I look at it, is he’s no longer in pain.  Again, thank you.

      I am making the process of getting better.  I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel, and it’s getting brighter and brighter.   I will stay strong, your prayers are welcomed, and very much appreciated.

      I hope you stop by again,


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