Sometimes when one turns 50, they look back on the first half of their lives. I know I did. So did my husband. He did a lot of the what if’s and should’ve, could’ve. Since there isn’t a thing you can do to change the past, let us look to the now, as well as the future. Right? I think it is normal. But you can start a list at any age; 30, 40, 50, 60 and so on.
You’re 50 or beyond!! You are 50 or over!! That really it is a privilege. But most of us don’t see it that way.
Brief question…Do you have a bucket list?? We don’t either. But I plan to touch on this, in this blog post.
When I first turned 50, I started examining where I was at in my life. Where hubby and I were at. I had those same thoughts of I wish I had done this or that. Can’t do anything about it now though. Right?
We talked about both family and friends that saved their whole life, for retirement. Made plans to travel, or sell their home and move to Arizona, and then one of the spouses gets really sick, or worse, one passes away. We didn’t want that happening to us!
Unfortunately what little we did have in savings, always got used when Tom was laid off. Sadly when my husbands’ father passed away, he left some money for all of his kids. That was when we bought our home in Florida. Paid for it in cash, no mortgage to worry about, and it is where we’ll retire, eventually.
Even though my husband and I aren’t in the best of health, we are not dead yet. And who says we have to wait till retirement to start enjoying ourselves now??
So at around the age of 54, we decided to start enjoying our lives, now! The kids are gone, living their own lives. So why the heck not???
What Would You Like to Do?
Yesterday when Tom and I were at the beach, I told him that I wanted to write this article. However, I was having an awful time writing it.
When I told him it was about Bucket List, he said that ought to be a good topic.
Then I asked him, how about we start our own bucket list? I named a few things, and he came up with a couple. After, that I kind of had to pull ideas from him. LOL That’s nothing new, and I consider myself a pro at it. Besides, I can be a big pain in you know where, if need be. So we did discuss it.
Lots of times we wait too long to think about making a bucket list. When something life-altering happens to you or even someone you may know. It makes you stop and think. Especially if you’re given a second chance. That’s what happened to me. And that is why I am all gung-ho about making our list. I’ve seen, all kinds of different names for this list, so name it what you want.
There is no better time than while you’re alive to make such a list. Right?? It helps some people to look at this list, as things I’d like to do before I die. Or things I’d like to do while I’m still alive! Like I said call it what you like.
Writing down this list makes it more tangible. Like a goal, that gets you thinking of ways on how to reach said goal. Something to work towards. A to-do list, instead of wishful thinking.
I won’t go into the financial side of this. You know your finances better than anyone. And please do not allow yourself to not make a list because of this. Just tailor it for you and/or your loved one, as well as your budget. And please, continue to read, because I will not only be including our list but giving some really great ideas as well. Maybe they’ll get you going on your bucket list!! Are you getting excited yet?? No????
You don’t really have to wait until you’re 50 to make a Bucket List either. The sky is the limit here. “Things I’d like to do before I am 30, or 40, or 50 or 60 and so on”. But this particular article is just for us Golden Warriors. I have seen folks, with such long lists, that have multiple bucket lists broken down into seasons. Or “With Family”, “Without Family” Those are doable too. Just start making that list.
Think of all the things you thought you’d like to do, but was too busy raising a family and/or working your job. Or when you have the money you’ll do it.
I remember my husband telling his dad when asked when we were having kids, and Tom said we couldn’t really afford to at that time. His dad said, “Tom one is never financially ready to have kids. You just do it, and figure it all out as you go”. Within a year we had our first daughter. Not intentionally though, just worked out that way!
Anyways, the kids are gone now, so you can’t use them as an excuse anymore. Maybe you’re still working. Or in our case, my hubby is still working. I work from home, so we just plan things around all of that. It is doable. Will we get our list done in a year? No, but we are in no rush. And I’m sure we will continue to add to this list. Bucket lists do not have a deadline. It is an ongoing list.
Sit down and make a list. And have your loved one make a separate list. Once done, both of you go over each others list and combine what is doable/reachable for you both. I’d love to go water skiing, but I know my legs are not strong enough for that. But, I can maybe work on building up my strength, and who knows what I’ll be able to do then. IF I can never get them really strong enough, we can try a canoe in a cave in Kentucky. Be flexible. Be realistic. AND HAVE FUN making it!!!
If your list becomes really long, you can always try putting them in categories. There is no right or wrong way. Know what is obtainable and realistic for you and/or your loved one. Remember to always keep that in mind. Better to be safe than sorry.
Years ago I knew a gal that started her Bucket list with a fishbowl. She would write down on a sticky note, whenever she got an idea and threw it in the fishbowl. It got quite full too. After about a year, she went through her fishbowl. Threw away the ones she had already accomplished then did the same thing to those that no longer appealed to her. From there she wrote down her list. It was a long list, so she made categories i.e. Winter Bucket List, Summer Bucket List, Travel Bucket List, Family Bucket List, and so on.
Did you know that HAVING a Bucket ist can improve your life!!!!! Life is short…too short. Get over those fears. Know your limitations, and then DO IT!! Start now!! Well, finish my article and then start!!! >smiles<
Ask yourself, what are the things I would like to do this half of my/our life??? I hate to do this, but must I remind you that our time is limited. Live each and every day with a purpose!! You don’t need money to do this!!!!
When you think along these lines, it gets you to thinking! Makes you think of what it is YOU want to do with your life!
Remember?? It IS our time!! Time to make new memories. Experience new things. Learn. Touch. Taste. MOVE!!! Get excited for the second half of our lives. We have nothing holding us back. And if you say money, that’s just an excuse.
Years ago, when the girls were little, we’d go to the mall. They would ride those kiddie rides that would cost a dime. And Tom and I would people watch!! Didn’t need much money to do that! If you have issues with your health, as I do, tailor your list to suit you. Just do it!!!
A bucket list gets you moving! It helps you to focus on you and your loved one!! Motivates you and gets you excited. Get out of your comfort zone and start your bucket list. It makes you more interesting, cause you’ll have all these awesome experiences to share with family and friends. Just imagine the stories you can tell your grandkids!
You’ll start feeling accomplished as you start checking those things off of your bucket list!! It will and can improve your life!!
Be the example to family and friends. Adventures, pictures, and stories that carry on, long after we’re gone!!
Some Things to Ponder
Ask yourself, if you had one month to live, what would you like to do? To some, this may not be what one wants to think about, but it does get you to start thinking.
Is there someplace you’ve always wanted to take your loved one? This doesn’t always have to be a spouse/partner. It could be a best friend, parent, grandkids, or brother/sister.
Maybe you want to go to Italy. It’s where your grandparents are from. Try their traditional foods and experience their culture. How about Ireland, Greece, North Dakota, Maine, Oregon, or Louisiana? Whatever works for you!
Did you ever have a honeymoon? If so, go back there. You may not have gotten to see all the sights, cause you guys stayed in your room the whole time. (tongue-in-cheek here…hehehehe) If you guys never really got around to it, we didn’t, go now. I mean what is stopping you? That’s going on our bucket list–to go to Jamaica!
What about going to the place where you proposed or got proposed to? Or where you told your husband you were pregnant. Tom and I met at Busch Gardens in Richmond, Virginia. And yeah that’s on our bucket list too!
What has been your biggest dream? Don’t have one..well start thinking about it now.
Start a journal. Something that your grown kids can share with their children one day. What about a gratitude journal? Stories of the funny things your kids did when they were young. We have one, where Kelsey, was about a year old and was jumping up and down on the couch. I can’t recall why Tom and I were laughing, but that just seemed to make her jump higher and higher, until she landed in the trash bin, behind, and kind of upside down. It wasn’t funny then…well maybe a little. But it sure is hilarious now! And the look on her face! Priceless.
Let’s say tonight your get granted 3 wishes….what would they be??
If money or health were not an issue here, what would you like to do?
Walk/Kiss in the rain. Jump in the puddles…or hop.
Go hiking in that State Park you’ve always thought about going to.
What about something adventurous? Whitewater rafting? Hot Air Balloon?
Go see a natural wonder. The Northern lights. Niagara Falls, NY. Grand Canyon, AZ. These 2 are going on our list. Going to Redwoods, CA to see the tallest trees in the world!! And Mammoth Cave, KY.
Work on a huge jigsaw puzzle. 500 pieces, or even a thousand pieces!!
Go skydiving, parasailing, rent a boat & take a voyage. Go snowboarding! As I said, the sky is the limit. THINK outside the box!!
Start a herb garden. A lot of these can be done inside.
Or how about a rose bed. WAIT, put rose petals on your bed!! Can you imagine the smell!!!??!? I know, I’m getting a tad bit carried away, but why not??
What about leaving a love note on the bathroom mirror? Not everything on your list needs to be grand. Little things like this, mean so much more to the receiver, then to you. But you might just put a smile on their face that day. The little things are just as awesome! When my husband goes out of town to work, he hides notes for me to find. They’ll say he loves me, He misses me. Or he’s thinking of me. And it does, it puts a smile on my face!
What about making bread, or pasta from scratch??
Try absolutely new food! Step out of your comfort zone and EXPLORE!!!
Attend a new event, opera, or a play.
Try new activities. One of ours is going kayaking. (completed 9/18/18!)
There’s also a cave in Kentucky, can’t remember which, where you can ride a horse inside the caves. Another you can canoe in. Those last 2 are already on our list.
Call those friends you ran around with before you married. Or those you haven’t seen since before you had kids. Reconnecting can always be fun! We’ve already done this once. Went and had dinner with 2 brothers that we hadn’t seen in over 32 years!! Oh, the memories we talked about. LOL, We had a lot of good times. And then good times they remembered, yet we didn’t. Or visa versa.
IF you won a $100,00 lottery, what are some of the things you would do??
Oh, how about winemaking??
Ride a dog sled. Go ice-skating, snowboarding! If you’re actually healthy enough to do these things, then DO IT!!! Do it now, while you’re healthy enough to do it!!! You don’t want to be on your deathbed thinking of all the things you wanted to do but never did. No regrets!!!!
Take lessons. This can be endless! From salsa dancing to wine and art! From cooking to learning a new language!
Heck, go skinny dipping. It may not look pretty, but once you’re in the water, who cares??? Don’t overthink it, just do it. And don’t talk yourself out of it. But also make sure there are no law officials nearby. Unless you think you can outrun them!
Become an organ donor.
Run or walk in a marathon! Walk for a cure or a charity. Or run, lol
This can truly be an endless list. Never ending. Always changing. Check out the link below for 1000s of ideas!
What Will You Put on Your Bucket List?
We don’t actually have a list written down yet, but we’ve been brainstorming. We’ve been talking about one for the last couple of days and I am so excited!!
Today we went up to a state park called Crystal River. OMG!! It was beautiful!! A swimming area. A place to launch your Kayak. Even had a handicap launch. We got so wrapped up in what we were doing, we headed to Rural King and priced some Kayaks. I would rather have a double seater Kayak. They didn’t have any though. But we’re only looking for now anyway. Got to stash some cash and save for it. I’m good at stashing cash. LOL
After reading the above ideas, or clicking on the link above. Does it have you thinking now??? Like I said it has both of us really stoked!
I would REALLY love to hear your bucket list ideas!! Share them, please. I’d love to see what is on everyone’s bucket list. I’ll be starting ours below. After I start it, I will update it often. Oh hey, they even have apps for your Bucket List:
Tom & Laura’s Butt-kick List
– Kick butt while we still can!
- Go Kayaking! (completed 9/18/18)
- Pan for gold in the Yukon River
- Jet skiing
- Drive over to Daytona Beach (east coast), to watch the sunrise, having breakfast. Start heading back to the west coast. Have a late lunch, and then walk the beach & watch the Sunset. On the same day!!!
- Horseback tours in Mammoth Cave, KY
- Dolphin Cove and swim with the dolphins!
- Go to Busch Gardens in Richmond, VA (it’s where we met!)
- Tent camping in Brown County State Park.
- Carribean Cruise
- A week in the Florida Keys with all the girls and their better halves! (Grandchildren if’n we have them by then)
- Go to Jamaica
- Redwoods CA to see the Redwood trees!
- Drive to Alaska
- Visit my old neighboorhood in Brooklyn, NY
- Visit every public gulf coast beach in Florida. We’ve already begun this one
- Grow my hair long again
- Go wherever the ocean is turquoise
It’s a start….for now. I will be updating it. And I’m definitely checking out one of those apps, so when an idea pops in my head, I’ll enter it in my Bucket List app.
Ok, your turn, in the comments below, start your Bucket List, if you like.
Share it with us all here. Or add some ideas.
Heck, tell us your story about crossing one off, of your Bucket List!!
I can honestly say I love getting older. Then again, I never put my glasses on before looking in the mirror. — Cherie Lunghi